I have no idea how to start this other than life has been absolutely amazing for me over the past month. I've been extremely consistent and progress peaks it head out more and more.
I had to take a break from giving advice because I wasn't taking enough of my own. Knowing better and not doing better is the essence of a fool. I will no longer allow myself to be so hypocritical. I said before that friends that inspire you is key. But there's an aspect that I left out. Friends that will be brutally honest with you despite your emotions operate in that same space.
When I took over this blog it was simply because Dosk believed in what I could do.
I never emphasized the meaning of Jakay, Jakai and Jamar's friendship. Some people criticize you because that's what they do. Very few people will reach into your hell to remind you, you don't belong there. In other words, don't talk about a problem if you're not going to spend any time offering solutions. Cut those type of people out of your life. Back to the meaning of this friendship.
We literally raised each other. Whatever I could show them I would and vice versa. From learning how to drive in an unregistered car without licenses, how to be unabashed in the face of denial, learning how to cook and filling apartments with smoke from burned meals. We even used to record skits and make compilations back in 2006. Life was simple and most decisions were made on a whim so we did a lot of living. Of course mistakes were also made that strained our relationship but we worked through a lot. There is no reason to pride yourself in being unforgiving. It only shows the pain you've felt and are still feeling.
Through all of our experiences we developed a support system that would bring us growth and momentum to continue forward. Unaware to the scarcity of such a bond, especially considering our environment. There is a severe lack of knowledge and too much disinformation in impoverished neighborhoods. We naturally see life as it is in front of us unaware that there is so much more. I have no intention of undermining how a lack of resources can inhibit growth but positive influences are like torrential rain and summer sun to seeds hidden beneath the concrete.
Influences matter more than friendships. You should choose your friends based on how they influence you. You can have a friend that shows you what it means to be compassionate but their insecurities prevent them from being decisive. Insecurities often prevent great situations from developing. That doesn't make them a bad friend and I believe we should all take the time out to help our friends overcome emotionally.
WE NEED TO SLOW DOWN.
Do not get stuck trying to help someone that doesn't want to do anything for themselves. Be aware of the hardships people can face and take into mind the mental cap placed on people subconsciously.
I was listening to The Brilliant Idiots podcast a couple days ago and there was an amazing analogy on the black experience in America. This applies to all groups of people that have been oppressed while trying to succeed within a schizophrenic society.
THE ELEPHANT IN THE FIRE
Imagine an elephant in all of its beauty and magnificence. If you were to take the elephant out of its natural environment and chain it to a pole since it was an infant. The elephant would grow into full form and still believe it is unable to break away from the chain. This mental cap will never allow the elephant to reach its potential. If a fire were to break out the elephant unaware of its tremendous strength would never be able to escape. It would die thinking it was trapped forever.
OPERATE AS IF
Many people develop insecurities subconsciously. Some occasionally realize that they have no grounds for the belief but deeply rooted emotions are one of the hardest things to change. Once you feel an emotion, whether it be passing in thought it is impossible to be unfelt.
You need to operate as if you are so much more than your own insecurities. I'm not going in depth on various ways to shed insecurities but there's something in faking it till you make it. Those negative emotions keep you from going outside a temporary separation from them is all you need. Tiny intervals of negative emotional separation that increase over time.
You can't fake the consistency, you will begin to truly feel like whatever it is you wanted. In turn become it. This ever winding path in life you will slip and fall. I know we all don't have friends that will help us out. Which is why I want each of us to be that person for our neighbors. I can't say it enough. I would not be who I am without the help of the people around me. To them I feel forever indebted.
Taking the time to consider how I can help others elevate is something I take pride in. Assuming what if they just need help getting back up or the push to take that first step. I will not help you financially though. So don't get ahead of yourself reading this.
I'm more than grateful for the life I have knowing it could be so much worse. Which is why I want to give back as much as I can despite how little I have. I've been working on a project I hope to launch soon. I will be creating a space dedicated to connecting people and documenting their process. A place you can become informed, inspired and entertained. How could we ever falter if we're collectively connected. We just have to see it.
I hope to create something to hold us...
"May we all continue to follow our dreams,
In whatever form they take as the times change"
Two... Two... Two.. TWO
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