A little background on me - daily I commute from Connecticut to New York for work and I meet a lot of commute friends or "train acquaintances" and we get into interesting discussions. And on one of my rides into the city an old acquaintance from high school and now a train friend - mentioned to me that I should incorporate more definitive words of encouragement to achieve my goals. We had got into a discussion about what I wanted to do in my personal life regarding something as simple as food choices - and what was stopping me.
I find myself unknowingly saying "hopefully, probably, God willingly" instead of just "I will." Hopefully I can give up that food, probably will next month. Why is that? Fear? Fear of what?
I found myself thinking about his advice and delving deep into myself on what is stopping me. And yes it really did start from a topic like food and yes it went further than that. Dont assume im going to give you a lecture on carrots vs donuts this whole time.
We are so binded to a society that leeches off fear... that if we really believe we can achieve these tasks we are going to jinx it because we are so acclimated to patterns that led to failure in the past that we let fear dictate how we get through it in the present.
We are binded to such a low class emotion which keeps us exactly in that class of thinking. The kind of fear like this keeps you down from ever achieving self empowerment to meet expectations you've set for yourself.
Now I'm not saying abandon fear of getting burned and jump right into a fire, but, metaphorically YES just a different kind of fire.
To bring yourself to a nobler level of thinking you must abandon the effect and address the root cause. Then you are truly free. Focus on the present not the past and future and think about what is causing you to have this doubt. Are you afraid of repetition?
Am I afraid that if I believe in myself I will not succeed like when I didn't get into that one program, or school, or course? If you find yourself living in the past go back to the root cause instead of letting the effect dictate how you will pan out in a future task.
If you are torn away from the future and past and you realize you could die tomorrow or lose your job or your family may abandon you - how strong is your level of self belief? Ask yourself is it possible to live completely submerged in the present both consciously and subconsciously and then address the fears you had once again.
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